We just moved which means that I have met a lot of new people in the last two weeks. When you first meet another person there is a series of questions that are always asked in the initial conversation.
"Where are you from?"
"Why did you move here?"
"How long have you been married?"
"How many kids do you have?"
"So, do you work?"
Without a second thought I always reply, "No, I just stay at home."
Well, yesterday was a particularly rough day in the Allen household. The babe is fighting getting her two front teeth, she's fussy, she doesn't like sleeping in her pack and play [her crib broke in the moving trailer], she crawls but wants to walk, she gets into everything, and she cries the moment I walk out of the room.
I thought to myself how hard it is to be a mom, and how almost every single time after I give my answer, I get the, "Ooh, you JUST stay at home?!" And it comes with a certain "look", you stay at home moms know exactly the "look" I'm talking about.
Let me tell you, I was one of you. I always grew up thinking that I would work after I had kids because being a SAHM was what lazy women did. I thought it was a cop out. Well, then I got married, got my own home, and then came our little bundle of joy... and then all the "things" started to add up.
I soon found out that house work + child care = not an easy gig.
Don't get me wrong, I did go back to work for a few months when Grace was a few months old and I know being a working mom is not easy either... I just think that being a SAHM is so commonly perceived as the easy thing for a woman to do once she has kids. I am here to tell you friends, it is not easy.
I've been thinking about all the jobs that being a wife and mother entails. Here are some of the few skills and jobs that if you're going to be a stay-at-home-mom you must master:
Let me tell you, if you slack at any of the above jobs there are some tough critics out there.
Though I am lucky and blessed to be given the opportunity to be a stay-at-home-mom, I don't think any of us are JUST moms. We do a lot most days a combination of all the jobs listed above. The hours are much longer than a day job, we work before sun up to well after sun down each and every day. Our main goal is much larger than just keeping one boss happy. We aim to keep not only our family healthy, happy, but our homes a peaceful & positive environment to teach, foster, and raise our children into responsible, strong, well rounded adults.